Why being selfish is fucking awesome

That’s right. Being selfish is fucking awesome and has tremendously altered the path of my life. Now, I’m not saying you should be a dick by not donating or not lending a helping hand.

No, I’m talking about doing what you want because you deemed you wanted to do it. Life is so much better when everything you do is because you want to, not because someone told you to.

3 ways to be selfish and how it will improve your life — Say no. Do shit that truly benefits you and Identifying your goals and fuck everything else.

Say No!!!!!!

This is the most important one! say no to shit you don’t want to do. So many of us get caught up in not wanting to say no because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or it will make you feel like a bad person. Fuck that. You look that person dead in the eyes and say “No thank you. I have XYZ I need to work on.” That’s it. Typically the other person will understand unless they are a dick.

You feel so much better when you say no. You don’t have that feeling of wasted time. That feeling of not doing what is truly important to you. It’s a great feeling. Try it.

Do shit that truly benefits you!

What I mean is do things that yes, are good for someone else, but it’s okay if you do it for yourself. That’s fine. Don’t feel guilty about it, we all do it. For example, you do someone’s podcast because you want to create exposure for yourself. That’s selfish of you but you’re also helping them out by giving them someone to interview.

Now again, don’t be a dick (this is a reoccurring theme) and do things expecting someone to do you a favor in return. Don’t give someone a free e-book and then get pissed when they don’t buy your product. Guess what, you’re going to be pissed a lot if this is your thinking.

If you simply do things because you want to without expectations, life can be pretty awesome.

Identify your goals and stick to them

To make everything come together and make you not feel like a dick for the above two statements, you need to identify your goals. Once you know your goals, you feel good when you repeat the above two because you know what you did it for.

When I tell someone I don’t want to do something on a Saturday and instead, I’m just lazy and lay around all day, I kind of feel worthless. Like I’m a lazy piece of shit. But, if I tell them no because I want to write something, go to the gym, simply relax in silence to help my brain reset (yes, I do this), I no longer feel bad. I actually feel great that I followed what I wanted to do and I said no!

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