I love the authenticity in your writing. Indeed, there is no rush in life at all, one step at a time. I believe even a child can be intelligent, but wisdom is for the old. The more we grow, the more we become wise. I agree with you, there is no rush in going into a relationship without an aim or a goal. That relationship will never last because it is aimless. This happens to be the order of the day, but I am happy you have come to the realization of this.It is not too late though for you to change a few things. All the best!