Being Ghosted Is Worse Than Having a Loved One Die
In the past 18 months, the love of my life ghosted me three times. Two months ago, my grandfather passed away.
In my grief for this incredible man who gave me so much in my 44 years, I’ve noticed how the pain is so similar to the emotional roller coaster of the last 18 months.
Ghosting is a popular topic for bloggers with input from psychological experts and I’m not interested in debating it. It’s a relatively new term in the digital age, because it often happens with more casual relationships
Psychologists say sometimes it’s a safety measure for ending an abusive measure. However, notwithstanding abuse, ghosting is a passive aggressive and unfair way to end a relationship.
We Were Something Serious
Our relationship was serious with plans for the future. We’d discussed marriage. We’d been together for four years and allowed each other around our respective children. We spent holidays together. He always insisted he loved me before disappearing.
I understand it’s not because I did something wrong. I know he struggles with a mental illness and has shut out a lot of people.