Maybe I’m interpreting it wrong, but I always considered “lean-in” to simply be a platform to give specifically women more resources to learn/figure out/strive to do what they want with(in) their lives.
For example, programming bootcamps for women. Seminars and groups that give women examples of other women in certain professions. Resources like scholarships, schools, trades, business opportunities, road maps to starting businesses and other things like that which are very readily available for men because that’s what is “expected” of them in our society.
What “lean-in” never meant to me is to work yourself silly, or get burnt out, or schedule your entire life around work and leave no time for sundry pleasures.
I’m not a perfectionist, I’m not a workaholic, and I never will be either, but I believe by using the resources “lean-in” highlights for women, I may be able to change my career from something like being a receptionist (because, like, 99% of all receptionists ARE women going back a bajillion years) to, say, an engineer which has seen a drop-off in women in the field. I don’t need to be a workaholic 24/7 engineer to be an engineer. I can be a part-time or 40-hour a week engineer, but I’m still leaning-in (in the way I interpret the movement) because instead of just taking a job that’s basically given to me because I’m a personable woman, I’m taking classes and seeking out opportunities that are less socially visible to women because that’s what I want for my life.