Regardless of your gender, age, or family-building plans, you should be peeing-your-pants terrified right now. — “All you have to do is think to yourself, are there men in power, and do they feel threatened?” — Robin Marty I don’t doubt that many, if not most, of the average Americans celebrating the Dobbs decision — a minority, to be sure, but certainly a loud one —…

The very idea of cold-calling a stranger terrifies me. I want to do anything within my power to get Trump and his enablers out of our government (and ideally into prison), but phone banking truly does not feel within my power. Historically, each election season, I’ve tried to assuage my…

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve been told the key to success is acting more like a man, I could buy Jeff Bezos a warehouse in Queens. Or at least fix the damn subway. This little nugget of wisdom has become so ubiquitous that it’s barely questioned…

Years ago, a male friend told me a story about going to coding camp as a kid. I don’t remember the actual story. I’m sure there was a point to it. The only thing I remember is thinking, “I would have LOVED coding camp.” No one in my life knew…

Closures can be daunting for a beginning developer — or even a more experienced one. They tripped me up for more years than I care to admit. This piece helped me a lot with understanding that closures are not magic. …

Previous post: Prick a Little, Balk a Little And just like that, we’re done. I had my retrieval on Friday — the earliest morning yet, but also the last. Wednesday evening, the clinic called to let me know it was go time. Time to give myself my “trigger shot,” which…

Previous post: Feeling Fried I woke up this morning at 8:15 in a blind panic. In my mind, I was supposed to be on the Upper East Side no later than 15 minutes ago. In reality, I had to do that yesterday, and will have to again tomorrow, but today…

Previous post: No Spring Chicken Three injections down. My friend is administering them for me. She has experience helping her sister through multiple rounds of IVF, so she’s a pro. The level of favor she’s doing me would merit me handing over my firstborn, if that wouldn’t defeat the entire…

Previous post: Laying the Groundwork The egg jokes are only gonna keep getting worse, folks. Sorry not sorry. As I’ve talked to more and more people about this process, I’ve realized that I’ve been assuming a lot of knowledge in these posts that in some cases I, myself, did not…