Emily Sue
Emily Sue
Aug 9, 2017 · 1 min read

You two have been together 10 months and he hasn’t googled you and found all this writing? Or your twitter bio? Or do you do your writing under a pseudonym?

I thought of this because I’ve had people find out things about me by googling that I might not have disclosed until later. I know one guy who runs a criminal background check and a credit check on everyone he goes on more than 3 dates with.

I agree with Steve’s perspective in another comment. There are lots of secrets that people keep for a variety of reasons and the more a person already cares about YOU as a person, the more likely they are to accept you in spite of the things you feel you have to hide. However, yeah, there’s a lot of entrenched almost reflexive violence that straight cis guys have against trans women, like that rapper on the radio show who said he’d kill a woman who disclosed that to him. It sucks you have to deal with this. Hugs.

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