I Dumped Two Nice Guys So I Could Date a Jerk
It’s not because nice guys finish last
I’ve heard a lot of guys complain that women never go for the nice guy and that they’re attracted to assholes who mistreat them.
Usually the guys who complain about this aren’t legit nice guys but just jerks who think they are, but that’s besides the point. (I won’t go into that here, but Chloé Daniels does a great job explaining this phenomenon.)
I’ve been on the other side of that complaint. I’ve been the girl who dumped the nice guy so I could go for the asshole instead. In fact, I’ve done worse than that. I dumped two nice guys at once for an asshole.
But it’s not because I get turned off by nice guys or because I can’t resist an alpha jerk. The real reason is more complicated than that.
That Time I Flip Flopped Between Two Nice Guys
I met Cody at a party through some mutual friends. He flirted with me, and because this was before smartphones were a thing, I gave him my email address.
We got to know each other online and he invited me to a party at someone’s apartment. Instead of staying with the crowd, we spent the entire night on the roof talking. Before the night ended, he gave me an awkward hug then said (to the…
