A couple of months ago, at 1 in the morning, I was sitting at our kitchen counter while everyone else slept soundly.
I had been talking to a friend the night before and was just awoken by a terrifying message.
This message insinuated that my friend was going to do something drastic. Something he couldn’t take back.
He was halfway across the world from me, on holiday with schoolmates, at the time.
So there I was, desperately trying to get in touch with the people he was traveling with, petrified that I would be too late.
That an untimely death…
“Burnout is nature’s way of telling you, you’ve been going through the motions your soul has departed; you’re a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker. False optimism is like administrating stimulants to an exhausted nervous system.”
― Sam Keen, Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
I couldn’t tell you the last time my phone went flat. Completely dead, no battery, black screen.
I can recall a few instances. A day trip to the city where none of us remembered a power bank. Dinner at Nanna’s where my cousins and I realized that Nanna lived right…
A little while ago I wrote an article about figuring out what you want from the people you’re jealous of.
I talked about taking action on obtaining the things I want, the things I envy in others. One of these things was a relationship.
So, I started trying to date again, went out with a few people, and quickly realized I hated it. My mind was screaming abort mission, abort mission.
Dating sucks and I spent a lot of time daydreaming about the extra work I could be doing or the me-time I could be getting in.
I looked at…
As inspiring as the stories about people leaving their day jobs to pursue their own business are, doing so is not realistic for most of us.
We need that steady income stream. We have people other than ourselves relying on what we make. Jumping to an uncertain income is scary, and depending on your situation, irresponsible.
So, most of us are out here, trying to do both. We’re working our day job and building our dream job on the side. We’re waiting until our hustle proves itself, monetarily.
As smart as this decision is, it can be hard to stay…
“Kill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little scribbler’s heart, kill your darlings.”
― Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft
No aspiring writer who’s trying to master the craft hasn’t come across this advice. It’s iconic for good reason, yet possibly one of the hardest concepts to act on.
In the process of writing and editing my first book, killing my darlings has plagued me the most. But I devised my own little workaround that has minimized my resistance to this advice.
The phrase “kill your darlings” has been attributed to many…
I always abide by the be kind to others, you don’t know what they’re going through rule. In my day job, I work on the frontlines in healthcare and the patients I see are often going through health struggles I can’t even imagine. If I can make the process easier for them, I strive to do so.
However, my field is not absent of nasty, angry patients and reminding myself to remain kind and not go on the defensive can be difficult.
Recently, I had an interaction with a difficult patient that stretched me thin and stayed on my mind…
Anytime I get a notification of a comment on something I’ve created on any platform, my heartbeat skyrockets. I have to see what’s been said, right then and there, no matter what I’m doing.
The anxiety doesn’t end once I’ve seen the comment either. Because then I have to reply. And that’s just as terrifying.
I was 13 years old when I created my personal Facebook account. I was 15 years old when I deactivated it and never looked back. At the time, I didn’t understand why I felt the need to do this. …
I’ve never worked anywhere that wasn’t a part-time gossip mill. Most businesses run on teams and the bigger the team, the more personalities are bouncing around. Clashes and complaints are inevitable. But they can be dealt with efficiently and whether you’re an employee or a leader, you can help your team be better.
I follow 3 rules when it comes to workplace gossip.
It’s easy to become a contributor to workplace gossip if you’re not careful. Someone gives you extra work to do or leaves a mistake for you to fix and the complaints come out to whoever’s around. …
Belief: trust, faith, or confidence in (someone or something).
Our beliefs shape who we are as people. They influence how we think, how we behave and our interactions with others.
Often we consider our beliefs to be factual and when we meet someone with differing beliefs, conflict can arise. Both parties hold their beliefs to be true and hearing otherwise can put us on the defensive.
This is especially interesting when you realize that we choose almost none of our beliefs for ourselves.
At any given time, I’m juggling financial goals, personal goals, study goals, work goals, future goals, and so on. Most would say that focusing on one goal at a time is a surefire way to achieve it more quickly, but some of us aren’t able (or don’t want to) do that.
When I look at my goals, I see them as pieces of a puzzle, smaller things that will come together to create the life I want. Many of them are tied together and need to be completed simultaneously or consecutively.
These are the goals I’m focusing on currently:
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