So, let me get this straight. You find every example you can of trans women acting badly — curated from the internet, of all places — and therefore claim that we are all bad. This reminds me so much of that terrible ‘peak trans’ thread on GenderCritical, where everyone will pull an anecdotal story about a bad interaction with a single transgender person and make it about how all of us are autogynephilic scumbags appropriating womanhood.
Your insinuation that my identity is a ‘costume’ is so beyond insulting that I don’t really care about what the rest of your argument is. Transgender women come in all shapes, sizes, and yes, styles of presentation. Do we feel extra pressure to present in a way that is traditionally ‘feminine’ so that we can ‘pass’ to make cisgender people comfortable with our difference? Hell yeah we do. And you have admitted yourself that if someone meets your definition of passing, you’re not going to notice them in your space.
In another article, you mentioned that there is a difference in anatomy between transgender women and cisgender women. Trust me, we are all very aware of that fact. I join infertility groups and while the issues that led to infertility are different, the struggles with it and the emotions around it are very much the same. I find it insulting that you think that my infertility is in any way less valid an experience than that of a cisgender woman.
And finally, no, I don’t advocate violence against you. But I do think that your ideology is regressive and detrimental not only to transgender women, but also to cisgender ones. Do we start locking gender non-conforming women who may not ‘pass’ out of womens’ restrooms? Does the transgender movement move away from our activism on womens’ rights and womens’ right to choose (both things, I will tell you, that matter VERY MUCH to me, even if some of it doesn’t apply due to my infertility — although you wouldn’t question a cisgender infertile woman’s commitment to these issues, would you?)
You are masking your hatred and regressive mindset with feminism. That’s the ultimate truth. Not everyone born with a penis is a threat to you, and I’m sorry that you experienced a terrible thing at the hands of someone born with one. But people born with vaginas can do terrible things too. It is not the genitals we are born with that determine who we are — that, I think, is one of the key tenets of feminism. Yet so many trans-exclusive feminists assume that their ownership of a natal vagina gives them a stronger claim to it. It doesn’t.
