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I know, it’s so easy in our attention-deficit society where we are welded to our phones. Waiting in line? Swipe the phone open and check your notifications. Sitting on the train, quick scroll through social media. And as you are scrolling every now and then you hit that little like button or double-tap that heart. Maybe you even share that article, but just the article, you don’t have time to write a few words about why you are sharing it. Isn’t sharing enough?

Frankly, no.

Your likes are our problem

There’s a reason that social media’s growth expanded like wildfire to become an integral part…


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At the beginning of my community-building experience, I assumed that everyone who was bringing people together was a community builder. I thought that everyone who created spaces for people to connect did so because they wanted to help people feel that they belong.

It turns out, I was wrong.

As I began to meet more group admins and community managers, I realised that not only were not all of them building something that was meant to last but some of them did not consider what they were doing to be community building nor, in fact, did they want to build…


Are you worthy to lead?

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Photo by Ashton Mullins on Unsplash

I’ve long been a gatherer of people, and I know now as an adult, that community building runs through my veins. It is something that I’ve been doing since I was a teenager, maybe even earlier since I was a young girl. I — like so many of you — often see gaps in the ways that humans connect, and then set out to be a bridge-builder, to reduce the space in between.

For the longest time though, I internally doubted my abilities as a community builder, as a gatherer and as a leader. There…


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Dear Accidental Community Leader,

If you have ever woken up in the morning and wondered “how did I get here?” you are not alone. Believe me, as a small child I did not dream of becoming a community leader, a gatherer and connector of people. Just the word “leader” made me recoil. I didn’t want all those people looking at me, looking towards me, seeking my guidance. I definitely didn’t want them witnessing my failings and my inabilities — the thought alone was overwhelming.

I did not need nor seek the kind of attention that I saw the more traditional…


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N ext to a love for community building, one thing which truly bonds our friendship is our obsession with books and reading. Naomi and I are both voracious readers who are happiest curled up in a large armchair with a warm cup of something and a good book. Naomi is permanently armed with a pen and a highlighter to make notes in the margins as well as being a loyal supporter of her local library, while Emmy is lost without her e-reader.

When we started to put together this reading list, we realised that there are lots of books about…


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As we explore redefining communities, we have found three types of communities presenting themselves regularly. It is helpful at this point to define those types of communities, and the differences we perceive between them as we move to truly redefine what community means. These types are distinct, yet they will naturally overlap in context and approach because at their core, they are driven by the humans who inhabit them. …


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When is a community not a community?

When it’s an empire.

Wait… what?

As Naomi started talking about the concept of community and how we build them, one of the things that drove us crazy was how the online marketing world had misappropriated the word community. Suddenly, everyone was being told to “build their tribe” or “grow their community” to make more sales. It felt like a corruption of community and really did not resonate with us at all. What we saw happening was not community building, it was captive audience creation. …


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All community begins with conversation. We know that to be true. No matter what the size of the community, no matter what the purpose, whether it is online or offline, communities begin when people convene to converse.

A conversation is what started Amsterdam Mamas, Emmy’s community, a conversation is what started IAmATriangle, Naomi’s community. And it was a conversation which brought us together to further the discussion on community building and leadership.

Conversations are not solutions. They are the beginning, not the end. They are where the seeds are sown and the sparks ignited. …


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We believe everyone has the capacity to create change and impact the lives of others. In fact, we are the very best people to do it. It is time for the smallest amongst us, the quietest, those who have never sought leadership or a bigger stage to get on with fixing what is broken in our neighbourhoods, in our cities, in our online spaces and beyond.

As we continue to peel back the layers of what it takes to build and lead communities which change people’s lives, we’ve discovered some stories of people just like us, just like you, who…


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We are continuing down the path of investigating, researching and learning more about communities (the definition of them, and the importance of them), and we’ve started to come up against some questions around community leadership.

Considering the requirements of community leadership naturally took us to the stories of others and how they perceive leadership. Rather as we did with the topic of community, we’ve spent time to learn more about the roots of leadership and what the core competencies are of today’s leaders. In doing so we noticed that four distinct themes of leadership emerged from our analysis.

We have…

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