Rebirth Within Resiliency
Elle Martin, Certified Integrative Health Coach and founder of SoHo Well+being, LLC.
Have you ever noticed how some people stay positive and are genuinely content even though they’ve been through terrible trauma, disease or great loss? These people have the ability to overcome circumstances and come out of the experience even wiser, and possibly happier. So how are these people different? Resiliency. Do you consider yourself to have the capability to recover from adversity as a wiser human being? How you manage difficult circumstances can set the tone for how you see the world and yourself. Resiliency is a tool to strengthen your personal foundation and bring more peace and fulfillment to your life.
A few years ago I was diagnosed with skin cancer. I had a basal cell on the top of my nose, and my dermatologist told me the best course of action was to have it surgically removed. A few months later as the cancer was cut from my face, the true weight of my experience began to sink in. I was left with twenty stitches down the bridge of my nose. That night I looked at the reflection in the mirror and cried. I cried a lot. For about two weeks I assessed how much importance I put on my physical appearance, and people’s opinions of my new (what I believed to be very noticeable) scar. A few weeks later when I revisited these thoughts I knew I transcended a difficult experience which tested my humility and faith. I felt I passed a personal growth test, truly appreciating the person I am no matter what and where my scars reside. It was a moment in time which highlighted my own personal resilience.
Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born. ~ Dr. Dale Turner
If you feel you are low on the resiliency scale, you can start to hone your skills and abilities by incorporating these three essential elements into your life; challenge, commitment and personal control.
- Challenge: The knowing you are able to rise to the occasion and conquer adversity
- Commitment: Walk your talk. Keep one hand on your integrity and the other on your humility. Stay focused on your long-term goals, not the speed-bump you’re currently dealing with.
- Personal Control: Focus on what you can control — your own self-awareness and personal growth.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, there are tools to support your long-term goal for a healthier lifestyle. The following five awareness tools can help increase your personal resiliency:
- Leverage your Challenges — ask yourself, what is this experience meant to teach me?
- Seek Support — surround yourself with positive people.
- Change=Loss=Grief=Rebirth — validate your grief for what’s changed or what you’ve lost, but celebrate the potential of what is to come.
- Redefine Failure and Success — release yourself from the need to be perfect or compare yourself to others. There’s no growth in less or better than.
- Maintain Perspective — remember to stay flexible in your thought process and awareness.
Remember to take care of yourself. Exercise regularly, get enough sleep, eat clean and real food, and find a healthy way to remove chronic stress from your life. The more balanced you are physically and emotionally, the easier it is for you to overcome obstacles. Check your internal dialog to see how you explain adversity to yourself. Is your go-to negative or combative? Find the positive and constructive perspective in your current situation, and take action!
The benefits of a resilient mindset are self-awareness, self-love, more positivity, and a stronger connection to your intuitive self. Opening yourself up to new and different things will seem less intimidating. The saying, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, will become less of a slogan and more of a battle cry! Difficult moments shouldn’t define you. These moments can actually help increase your resiliency and provide more emotional stability, creating more health and well-being in your life.
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