Finding the One

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Jul 30, 2017 · 2 min read

Last week, I was catching up on Hyori’s Bed and Breakfast, which I find to be a really pleasing show. Maybe it’s ’cause the married couple lives such a low-key lifestyle in the beautiful Jejudo (Jeju Island), away from the hectic city life of Seoul. Maybe I’m just naive because that’s what the media intend to show, but you can’t deny — there’s something genuine about them and their way of life. Even so, it made me realise that… that’s the kind of life that I yearn for. Simplicity at its finest. Well, of course it’s going to require a lot of money to live in such a dream house and a dream place, but it’s really their outlook and interpretation on existence itself that makes it so pure and so simple.

Ok, I digress. But I’m here to write about something else. The heartwarming yet powerful advice Hyori gave to IU left such a deep impression on me and it’s certainly worth sharing.

“If you look around too hard to find a good guy, they never come. The good person came to me when I worked on myself to be a better person.” — Lee Hyori, Hyori’s Bed and Breakfast

I wish more girls were able to realise this. We shouldn’t compare ourselves to other people, and especially not with what they have and whom they are with. Once we start comparing, we lose sight of what’s important and we become less thankful of our blessing. It’s probably easier said than done ‘cause’ I know some of us feel like we’re obligated to find a guy and marry now (or soon) because one by one, our circles are getting married. But if only we knew our worth. If only we valued our worth. Instead of becoming too attached by the idea of “finding the one”, let’s pray, try and hope to “find the One” first and foremost because God’s plans are the greatest. He is the Greatest. When we put our whole trust in Him, only then will our hearts be at peace. Some people meet their soulmates earlier than others, while some… a little later, and you know, that’s okay.

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