OMG!? She assaulted my arse!
Rajiv Findlay

I enjoyed your article very much, and would like to offer a bit of historical perspective before I comment on your experience:

In the 1970s and 1980s I was a victim of sexual assault or harassment on a regular basis. It was the accepted norm for a young woman at that time, and my humiliation, distress, and sense of violation was met with the same sort of dismissal you expressed in your article. In addition, the patriarchy was in full force at the time, which meant that many men felt they had the “right” to behave this way. The streets were “owned” by men, and if women chose to dress in a way that happened to please them, they were “asking for it.” I was fair game in a society in which men held the power, and made the rules. Fortunately, we now live in a time where the focus on this brand of violation is growing exponentially, as more and more women share their stories with each other and the rest of the world. There is a seismic shift in awareness underway, which is incredibly empowering to women.

This being said, I do not wish to diminish your awful experience by one iota. Any victim of sexual assault should be treated the same way. Sexual assault IS assault. I believe the police should have been called.

Additionally, this woman used her sense of power and entitlement in an abusive way, much as some men have been doing to women since the dawn of time. Abuse of power IS abuse.

Who do you turn to? Maybe to others who know this feeling only all too well: Any man, woman, LBGTQ victim of this unique brand of assault. #metoo

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