What I’m saying is that it can’t be the only tool in your kit. Own the authority of your role. If that authority is uncomfortable and you’re worried about wielding it poorly, then get educated. You can be a better boss than the ones you’ve had. Figure out when your duty of service is to the individuals on your team, and when it’s to the organization at large. Figure out how you want to act in the rare but real cases where those are in conflict.
This is the real tragedy of fragile deployments and fragile teams. There is no reason, ever, that any workplace process should involve shaming, yelling, or embarrassing employees. No problem as mundane as shipping software should drive people out of your company.