PinnedMember-onlyI’m Surrounded by Adults Who Behave an Awful Lot Like ChildrenSome people never learn. — One of my best friends from high school got divorced last year. I just talked to him the other day and he feels like shit. He misses his ex, he regrets the whole thing. …Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·PinnedMember-onlyHow to Successfully Navigate In-Laws From HellOr, how I avoided getting punched by my wife’s dad. — When I started dating my wife, I had no idea who her parents were. We weren’t really thinking of our families at the time. But the topic caught up with us in a spectacular fashion. A few months into our relationship, she spent the night with me. I was still…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
Published inWholistique·PinnedMember-only6 Signs Someone Isn’t Worth Your TimePay attention to the subtle red flags. — During my first few weeks at college, I made friends with a guy who seemed really smart and proactive. We barely knew each other but we got along well — we exchanged notes, drank coffee between lectures, I lent him some of my CDs (yeah, those were still a thing…Relationships7 min readRelationships7 min read
Published inForge·PinnedMember-onlyMorning Routines are Overrated. Follow Salvador Dali’s Advice Instead.3 things to pay attention to — I’ve read hundreds of articles about what successful people do when they get up each day. I tried to optimize my mornings, over and over again. Should I take my coffee first or have a cold shower? Is it better to slurp down a smoothie or eat a full breakfast? …Self5 min readSelf5 min read
PinnedMember-onlyPlease Stop Telling Me About Your Retirement PlansYou’re making a huge mistake. — There was once a businessman sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village. As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite a few big fish. The businessman, impressed, asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch…Retirement Plans4 min readRetirement Plans4 min read
Published inWholistique·Dec 2, 2023Member-onlyThis Stanford Lecture Just Gives Us The Real Secret to SuccessA perspective I haven’t quite considered before. — I stumbled upon a great talk on YouTube this week. It’s part of the “last lecture” series from Stanford Business School, presented by a brilliant speaker, Graham Weaver. The theme of the talk struck a chord: How to Have an Asymmetric Life. I’ve given speeches to college grads before. The…Lecture Notes3 min readLecture Notes3 min read
Published inWholistique·Nov 10, 2023Member-onlyYou Need to Stop Trying to Win ArgumentsDo this instead. — We spend too much of our lives in endless, pointless squabbles. It usually starts out with a real problem that needs solving. But soon, the act of arguing becomes our main concern. We no longer want to solve the problem. We want to win. This is especially common online, where…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inWholistique·Nov 2, 2023Member-onlyYou’re Not as Rational as You Think You AreBut is that a bad thing? — Ever make a spontaneous purchase and then convince yourself it was “on sale” or “a great investment”? That was emotion steering the wheel, with logic riding shotgun. Rationalization is a powerful tool. It always helps us find a good reason for doing what our emotions are telling us to do. …Mental Health3 min readMental Health3 min read
Published inWholistique·Sep 19, 2023Member-onlyThe One Poem that Reveals the Key to True HappinessAnd brought tears to my eyes. — What are 3 amazing things that happened today? Of all the prompts in the 5-minute journal, this one scares me the most. Picture yourself, sitting on your bed with your journal, struggling to recall anything noteworthy to jot down. …Poetry2 min readPoetry2 min read
Published inWholistique·Sep 12, 2023Member-onlyWholistique: A Milestone and a NewsletterA love letter to our writers and readers — I joined Medium 3 years ago and began a new writing journey. A big part of this journey was the launch of our own pub, Wholistique. And I’ve got great news! Wholistique has grown to nearly 5,000 followers. We’re so close! Thank you dear writers for sharing your knowledge, your…Newsletter2 min readNewsletter2 min read