But it won’t be in mine

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The first and only sex talk I ever had with my mom happened when I was 10. Driving by the high school in our predominantly Mexican-American neighborhood, she tilted her chin toward two teenage girls with crunchy brown hair and red lipstick. “Don’t ever let that happen to you,” she said.

At first, I didn’t know what she was talking about. Did she not like their style? Or the way they giggled as they walked? When I said nothing, she pointed to my crotch and said, “Don’t let anyone ever touch you down there.”

That’s when I noticed their bulging…

Erica Garza

Erica Garza is the author of GETTING OFF: One Woman’s Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction. Her work has appeared in TIME, Health, Glamour and VICE.

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