Reasons I don’t like Tinder

Or the main reason for not enjoying this app.

I’m intense, period

I’m sorry, but I can’t bear shallow people, and I don’t mean that all people from this app are shallow, but there’s no way to get to know them having shallow conversations.

• hey
• hi
• how are you
• fine, you?
• ok, what do you do in this city
• I’m a … you?
• cool *some comment on my job* I’m a..
• nice
• WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE A BEER WITH ME SOMEWHERE NOT AT ALL WEIRD SO I DONT SOUND LIKE I WANNA FUCK AND THATS IT?????

Well, shit, no, I don’t, goodbye, see you never again.

I logged on tinder around three times in my life, all of them after my relationship was over, seven months ago. I had it logged for like, 4 days, and then I closed my account, I just couldn’t handle it. People asking me to go to their house and drink wine and meet them for the fucking first time of my life. Really, how frightening is that? I mean, that’s no good idea, do people say yes to such proposals?

I can’t say I only had bad experiences on tinder, actually the one that worked out happened like, one month and a half after we added each other on whatsapp, so I don’t know, but we talked a lot and one day we stayed up very late talking about our life, families, etc. Maybe for that reason I asked him out one day, and it was pretty good. I felt comfortable enough to see him and the time we were together was just comfortable and nice.

It still felt shallow sometimes.

I live in a big city, everyone is busy doing their stuff, studying, working, running their own business. I confess I’m missing some heat, a warm conversation and care. That’s why I feel such emptness on tinder, there’s no heat, no warm conversation, no care.

This is probably the last time I close my account on tinder.