Heal the soul, Silence the mind

Erica Stewart
Jul 21, 2017 · 3 min read

“The soul usually knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” — Caroline Myss

I think knowing the right thing to do is innately within us, but we do not always do it.

Why? Who the hell knows.

Considering most of us find ourselves providing some of the greatest advice to our friends, yet never applying it to our own lives, as we probably should.

Why is that? Why do we do that?

Why are we so able to lay out a meticulous blueprint for someone else’s life, yet we cannot take the time to turn it around and view it for our own sake?

Is it because we do not want to do the right thing?

I don’t know.

Maybe because we know that once we turn that blueprint toward our lives, we will have to start unpacking some heavy baggage that we would rather leave untouched. Because once we change our lenses to view our lives in a deep, raw, and life-changing perspective, we know there is no turning back from there.

For instance, with love.

Love.

A word with a pending definition that may last a lifetime.

Why are we so capable of spotting the bad in our friend’s partner, but not in our own? We know each and every reason as for why that person does not deserve our friend and why our friend deserves so much better, but we are almost never able to view ourselves in such a loving and caring light as that one.

Does it make more sense to know more about what your friend deserves rather than what you, yourself, deserve?

I don’t think so.

Imagine how drastically your life would change if you looked out for yourself as much as you do for the people you care about the most. You are with yourself everyday for every moment, forever. And you may want to realize that the only person that will always be there with you, through absolutely everything, is you.

Which is why you should be careful of the small, yet magnificent organ called your heart. We can be quick to think of our heart as too emotional and as the reason for our irrational actions, but do not forget that it controls your entire being, literally and figuratively. You are alive because of it, so be careful of who you allow to stitch a piece of themselves onto it.

You know what you truly deserve. And if you think you don’t, take the time to imagine the kind of human being that would do and say the right things in order to win your heart. This should not be the chance to imagine a current person and what they could do better, or a past person and what they could do to get you back. This is the time to imagine a person who would deserve you, and I mean really deserve you. Think about what is important to you and what you want out of life. Think of what brings you true joy and imagine experiencing that with someone. What would you want that person to notice about you? What about you would you want them to love?

Spoiler alert: this introspection should remind you of all the reasons why you are worth being loved whole-heartedly. This love may be well worth the wait.

You might forget that,

but remember it.

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