Hmm. This is how conversations about this topic always seem to go:
Feminists: Feminism is just about equality. Look at this dictionary definition of feminism. See? It says it’s only about equality.
Everyone else: Are you sure about that? We see feminists doing and saying shitty things all the time. There’s all the hatred and vitriol they spew constantly; that sure makes it sound like feminism is about hating men. And the demands that feminists are always making are nothing to do with equality, they’re demands for special treatment and advantages. Plus feminists are always insisting that women should be excused from responsibility for their actions, and they want to transfer that responsibility to men instead. That sounds nothing like equality to us.
Feminists: SHUT UP! I TOLD YOU, THE DICTIONARY SAYS FEMINISM IS ABOUT EQUALITY AND THAT’S ALL! IGNORE THAT OTHER STUFF, IT’S IRRELEVANT! THE DICTIONARY IS THE ULTIMATE AUTHORITY, WHAT IT SAYS IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS!
Feminists: Oh, and by the way: it’s impossible to be racist towards white people and it’s impossible to be sexist towards men.
Everyone else: Really? Are you sure? We’re looking at the dictionary definition of racism right now and it doesn’t have any caveats or exclusions about white people. It just says simply, “Hatred or intolerance of another race or other races”. By definition, white people are included in that definition. And the dictionary definition of sexism just says, “Prejudice or discrimination based on sex”. There’s nothing in the dictionary definitions that excludes men.
Feminists: SHUT THE FUCK UP, ASSHOLE! I TOLD YOU WHAT RACISM MEANS AND IT DOESN’T APPLY TO WHITE PEOPLE, SO THAT’S IT! I TOLD YOU WHAT SEXISM MEANS AND IT DOESN’T APPLY TO MEN, PERIOD. THE DICTIONARY DOESN’T MATTER AT ALL, WHAT IT SAYS IS IRRELEVANT!