5 Ways seniors can cope with the loss of a spouse
Losing your spouse can be hard, especially if you have spent most of your life with them. Many people deal with retirement and other life changes rather well if they have a loving spouse. However, for those who suffer the loss of their spouse often find it very hard to deal with their absence and carry on with their lives. As hard as it may seem, life doesn’t stop for anyone. There are 5 ways seniors can make coping the loss of your loved a little more bearable.
#1I know it sounds simple but take time to grieve. The process of grieving isn’t defined by the amount of time it takes or things you have to do to cope with the loss of a loved one, but it is a process that allows you to deal with your emotions. I know some people are more comfortable grieving when they have busier schedules, where others prefer to completely slow down. Regardless of how you grieve, make sure that you take the time to deal with the loss of your loved one at your own pace.
#2 The greatest blessing that one can wish for at an older age is companionship and it is something that the people miss mostly when they lose their spouse. In order to work around it, seniors can find some sort of community activity that they like, for instance, book clubs or counseling the youth or any such activity that would keep them busy for a few hours of a day. Having something productive to do will not only make them feel an important and useful part of the society but also give them a chance to interact with different people and keep them busy and occupied.
#3 In many communities there are support groups that help people deal with their loss and problems. Meeting with people once or twice a week who are going through the same thing as you are helps immensely and it makes the process of coming in terms with your situation much easier.
#4 Spend as much time with your kids and grandkids as possible. Keep in mind that even though you have a lost a spouse; your children have lost a parent. Visit them, plan activities with them, be involved in their lives, and help them by helping yourself. Support of the family is vital in dealing with a loss of a loved one.
#5 although it may seem odd to some people, it’s never too late to find someone else. Spending your life alone is not easy, especially when you have spent the last fifty or sixty years with someone by your side. Moreover, trying to look for companionship elsewhere doesn’t mean you no longer miss your spouse or feel their loss. Hence, if you think you are in a place where you want to share your life with someone else then don’t be afraid and do it.
It can be tough to adjust to a new reality and accept your situation. Losing a loved one is never easy but have faith knowing that having family and friends can always make the process easier.
About the Author: Eric Daw is an active aging specialist and the owner of Omni Fitt. Omni Fitt is dedicated to the wellbeing, health and quality of life of people aged 55 and over in Toronto. Eric motivates and empowers the older adult population to take responsibility for their independence, health and fitness through motivating and positive coaching experiences.