While I generally appreciate this advice, one thing that appears to be missing in this account is the role that privilege may play in how this advice worked out for you.
#2) There’s research out there (e.g. https://hbr.org/2010/09/why-men-still-get-more-promotions-than-women and https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/05/150506164244.htm) showing that men tend to be judged for opportunities based more on their potential than on their track record, which will affect who gets “pulled”.
#3) There are plenty of people who ask, and don’t get, because they are not seen as the type of person who “belong” or they aren’t a “culture fit” or they have years of experience showing that when they ask without being 120% qualified for a position, they will get rejected in favor of somebody who “looks like a leader” (generally meaning white and male)
.#4) A woman who “asks for forgiveness rather than permission” will often be perceived as harsh and unlikable (e.g. every woman who tried to get elected).
Mark, I’ve followed you a long while, and I know that you are passionate about issues of diversity and inclusion, but I wanted to point out that advice like this does not work for everybody, and you should be aware of that before prescribing it based on your own experiences and successes that have been informed by your privilege.