How To Quit With Grace And No Hard Feelings
The Daily Grind #65
Throughout my life there hasn’t been many instances where I’ve told someone “I quit.” I’ve typically been the person that encourages people to push through things and find ways to make life easier. But also to follow that path.
Of course if that path means quitting something and doing something else then so be it. But by following this path myself, there’s only been two instances of me doing that.
Quitting my job selling credit cards to people.
And quitting work with one of my clients which I did yesterday.
Quitting gives us a sense of relief and calmness. It’s a burdon (pun intended) off of our chest and we get the opportunity to breathe.
But while quitting is the end of work it doesn’t always mean it’s the end of the relationship. Not every person who quits automatically burns that bridge down and moves on.
Some times we have to quit due to programs. For me most of my quitting moments are in those time sensitive things.
Regardless, even if you didn’t enjoy the job as much, there is a way about quitting with grace. I’ve learned how to do that by mucking up the few times I had the opportunity to quit.
We’ve all had shit jobs before or we’ve been treated poorly. This in turn sours our own experiences and how we view our job. It’s to the point that a lot of people feel disconnected and even hate their job or the company.
But while your emotions may be well founded, it doesn’t mean that the manager themselves is complete shit. Or perhaps they are.
Either way they’re not always the main contributor and perhaps they’re doing a shit job because they honestly don’t care about it. Or perhaps it’s the business environment.
Whatever the case may be, when you plan to quit don’t complain to the person’s face.
Complaining ruins your mindset as we all know. More than likely if you complain now, you’ll be complaining again and again, never fully satisfied. There will always be something you can complain about.
So even if the job is complete and utter shit, don’t complain about it. If you’re heavily involved in the company, instead provide some advice to improve things. Contribute to making others lives easier.
Give An Advance Notice
I know for formal jobs most instances people give notices that they are quitting in advance. Even still, I think it’s important to be doing that even in the freelance industry.
That’s what I did yesterday. So I’m not exactly done with my client right at this moment. However that date is getting closer and my client knows that.
Giving an advance notice is key as it allows a person to prepare appropriately. For my client it’s more opportunity to post ads and find other people. For me it gives me the opportunity to better plan my next moves now that I know one of my larger time eaters is going to be gone.
Giving a notice is a sign of respect.
Compliment Show Appreciation
Another way you can filter out complaining is by talking about the things you do enjoy. Obviously some constructive criticism is always helpful, but it’s also good to know what people are doing right.
By focusing on the positive you’re going to be in a better mood. You’ll still be critical about the job, but your overall tone is going to be positive.
Take the time to compliment and show what you did like. For me, this particular client improved my writing skills by prompting me to do research. Not only that, but I also learned a variety of topics as well.
Quitting With Grace
In my message I sent to my client yesterday I incorporated those things. I gave a reason why I should quit (I’ve got a lot of plans ahead of me.) while avoiding complaining.
Furthermore I gave a two week notice but also highlighted what I enjoyed about working with my client.
Yes I could’ve complained that the pay was horrible, but I knew that how his business was set up there was no other way to increase it. I could’ve complained about some topics not being as interesting or mundane to write.
But even if the job wasn’t stellar, it was still a starting point to moving on to better and brighter things. It’s a necessary step and I still want to keep that connection.
You never know where someone will be going and doing. So leave on good terms if you can.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon
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