I straight out tell people I’m selfish, because I am. Sometimes I don’t feel like doing things so I say I don’t feel like it. I’m tired so I want to go to bed at 10 PM. We had toasted waffles and fruit for dinner tonight because I’m selfish and after an emotionally draining weekend I just didn’t feel like cooking. When I feel angry about a situation I tell whoever that my intentions aren’t to be dismissive but I need to take a few minutes of space before I say a lot of things that I don’t really mean.
The thing is, the people that truly care about me, the ones that are meant to be in my life, don’t think I’m selfish, even if I do.
There are a crap ton of people in the world who understand and wouldn’t think you are being selfish, unlike the person who was being selfish when they treated you badly by ending your friendship.