Reactive Behaviour
And how to stop self-sabotaging yourself…
Have you noticed how sometimes you do the exact opposite of what you really want to do. Like, how when you get into an argument with your significant other, you end up yelling and waving your arms up in the air, when you promised yourself that this time you would truly communicate, openly and patiently, out of love and understanding? Well, it’s called reactive behaviour.
If it helps any, it is said that the psychological reason why we react is because we feel insecure and lacking control over a situation or person, so when we are frustrated and things don’t go as planned, or as we want them to go, we react trying to control the outcome with force or by expressing our discontent — but it seldom works…only in unhealthy relationships, which basically means it doesn’t work.
Deep inside it’s an emotional thing. When we react, we are actually not only reacting to the current situation, but to a chain of situations that have affected us throughout our lives, in which we have felt the same way… and they just accumulate, causing us to react very heavily in the end. That’s why we get worse the older we get… we accumulate more sh*t and negative experiences that just make our reactions worse!
I haven’t mastered it as I would like — not quite the Jedi, yet… — Well, with my mom…
