Maggie, I am so glad that you found value in what I wrote. I would add that 13 years ago (4 years after my divorce was final) I met an amazing man who has shown me what it is to have a REAL partner. 6 years ago we got married. He has been a real father to my children and has stood by me through thick and thin, as have I. You can find real love after all this mess. One good thing is that you find out what is really important to you, and it isn’t looks or money. It is the character of the person you love. I hope you find that person of quality and build the life you are meant to have.