In Western culture and particularly in the United States, we are in the “in between times.”
Religion as an external organizing principle for internal spirituality and meaning has waned in significance over the last half century (and honestly, for the better*). But we have yet to erect something so potent in its place.
This leaves a lot of people seeking for something they simply cannot find in the external world, because meaning-making is of the spirit, of the soul. …
This week I read a passage that made me blush. And no, not in a coy, cute way. In that red hot flushed sort of way that only the hardcore shame of relating can produce. In that, “uh oh, is this me?” sort of way.
It’s a real zinger. Here goes:
“The psychotherapist frequently sees cases of this sort. Such a person considers himself as a most promising individual. He is full of talents and potentialities. One of his complaints is often that his capacities and interests are too wide-ranging. He is cursed with a plethora of riches. He could…
Those of us running businesses, working from project to project, or surfing the gig economy know that work naturally ebbs and flows — as does income and inspiration. When you are new to this cycle, the first big lull will probably freak you out. In fact, it took me 8 years of being in business for myself to get accustomed to the cycle and then learn to harness it as a very special bastion of stillness in an otherwise insane world.
But you can’t enjoy the quiet if you are in financial or existential terror about what comes next. …
I know, I know. There are many very prominent leaders offering courses and seminars coined as “mastery” programs. How could this be a problem?
I’ll let you in on a secret: mastery is marketing. Just as is the promise of millions, the house, the car, the relationship. Mastery gives us some sense that there is somewhere to go and that this program is the way to get there.
But do you ever stop and wonder why the same people return to these events over and over? Why they become evangelists and lifelong students of the programs?
Because mastery is a…
Recently I was sexually assaulted by a body worker, energy worker and coach.
Recently a body worker and coach whom I trusted sexually assaulted me.
[Language matters. A point we will return to later. Passive voice is disempowering to the victim and gives an energetic pass to the perpetrator.]
I do not use the words “sexual assault” lightly and I thought a lot about saying “violated” or “boundaries severely crossed” so as not to totally freak out the people who care for me. What happened with this man was not rape, yet it was a gross non-consensual intrusion. He…