I really liked this article, thank you. To people in marginalized groups who have a lot of safety pin skepticism: I am so sorry for how sad and scary and hard these times are for you. I can’t imagine what it’s like, but I can promise to continue fighting for your rights in every way I know how.
I can’t help but feel that the criticisms of pins come tinged with shaming allies for facing fewer dangers than you, for being safer. And it SUCKS that we get to be safer. It’s not fair. And if you can’t really deal with people that aren’t in the same danger as you right now, if this is just too overwhelming and you need to surround yourself with people who get it at the same visceral level you do, who are in the same danger, I get it. But if that’s the case, I’m going to ask that you lean into your support, instead of making (or at least writing) assumptions about allies. What we are going through right now isn’t nearly as intense as what you are, but we’re still going through something big. It’s still legitimate, it’s still valid, for us to move forward through this for ourselves. And I believe that most people are lost and trying to help, and figuring out what we can do, even if we are imperfect. So gain strength from your truest support system, but please stop assuming the worst about people that don’t understand everything you’re going through because they literally can’t, they are not you.