This article isn’t about safety pins, but it still encapsulates why I think this big public argument was misguided. http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/11/how-should-trump-protesters-organize-themselves.html
While I agree that minorities have plenty of reason to distrust fly-by-night allies, I also think that by assuming and writing publicly shaming articles to that effect makes it a self-fulfilling prophecy. Be cautious, be distrustful, but don’t attack people for what you’re *afraid* they will do. And I get the resentment that you describe, that POC or immigrants don’t get to have a safety pin. That is an injustice, and a further degree of unfairness, but taking that resentment out on allies is shaming them for their privilege— as it looks like you understand — and at best, that is counterproductive. It’s not that I don’t get the impulse, based on my own struggles (as a lady with a disability), I totally get it. But it’s still not a constructive impulse, when now is a time we need to be building a serious movement of solidarity. So have your feelings, roll your eyes, but give people a chance to surprise you.
Thanks for the thoughtful piece.