“I feel like I am covered in a shroud that no one else can see and that no one else wears”, says Melissa, a 40-something mother of one. Melissa came to me seeking understanding and insight for decades' worth of what she called “low-grade trauma, desperation, and dysregulation”. She said…

My phone tells me how many hours I spend online. The weekly report offers comparisons from one week to the next; Was I up 33% from last week? Was it an average of 2 hours today compared to 3.5 hours this time last week? I don’t track metrics like this…

“I’ve been no contact for 23 years…and I still cry every day” “I went no-contact last week and I’ve never felt more free” “I can’t keep playing this Rigged Game, but the thought of leaving is terrifying” “I’m working through my recovery and discovering who I am. It’s been a…

How heavy is your mask? Are you walking around your life like “Trauma in a Trenchcoat”? Meaning, are you using up all your energy to “mask” and hide away your trauma in order to appear “healthy”, “competent”, “successful”, “normal”, and “in control”? In order to FEEL healthy, competent, successful, normal…

For scapegoats, Mother’s Day is a day of loss. The commercials start off with messages of honouring your mother for the incredible woman she is. She is beautiful! Perfect! Amazing! …

“I am lucky to have good neighbours. We’ve become close-ish. Hopefully, our friendship will continue to grow. It’s a small mercy, given I uprooted my life, and departed all my nearest and dearest friends to be closer to ‘family’.” Mishka sits across from me in my small downtown office. She…

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Healing is about feeling. If you’ve ever stepped into a therapy office, chances are you have been asked the question, “How do you feel about that?” If you are anything like me, you can rattle off a fairly involved, immensely insightful narrative about exactly what you feel, why you feel…

Imagine a moment when you walked into a room and it suddenly got quiet. Or that time in the elevator when you overheard whispering. When your friend didn’t text back right away. Is your first thought: “What is wrong with me? What did I do?” When you grow up with…