Not with that attitude

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You are in control of only the things you can control (thank you stoicism), everything else (how other people react for example) is outside of your control. Issues arise when you try to do more than what’s in your control, and allow your mind to spiral out of control (sound familiar?).

Working in a digital marketing agency (but true in many other types of business), a lot of the work that you do is reactive — questions on data, user acquisition strategy, content direction, etc. Very often you get requests that are a little crazy and out of left field (client from hell, anyone?. The initial reaction is usually not ver positive (in many cases, you probably don’t even want to look at the email) — your day’s ruined and you start looking for distractions. It’s not going to be a very productive day.

But why is that? Why do we let out emotions control how your day might end up? Is there something we can do about it?

The only thing we can control, is our emotions. It’s up to us to decide how we react to certain situations (flight or fight). We’re in control of what to do and how ultimately to respond (there’s a difference between reacting and responding). If we take the time to mindfully address the problem and find solutions, we’ll come out in a better place (as opposed to finding excuses or reasons for a particular result).

We can’t control everything, and we shouldn’t try to either. We don’t know where comments/questions are coming from (the client might have a poor understanding or tone of voice is hard to convey over email) — all we can do is respond accordingly. There’s no point in getting frustrated over spilled milk.


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