Aw, bless you. You’re so thoughtful and kind. And as it happens, your suggestion is exactly the conclusion Ben and I have come to over discussions the past couple of days: we don’t want to make a big decision like this under the artificial time pressure of a stupid pre-K deadline. So we’re going to kick the can down the road! Prolly we’ll still end up in Queens, but we’ll move sometime between Babygirl finishing pre-K and starting kindergarten, which gives us another year and a half to breathe, enjoy the friends and institutional supports (day care, pediatrician) from our area, and figure out what we actually want.