When I read your post, my first reaction was a loud no, along the lines of just because you… and then I took a deep breath and thought. If I look around, none of the people closest to me are in a happy relationship/marriage. I’m 30+ and single, and just yesterday, in a conversation with my mom, “maybe I will be single forever” slipped my lips and it didn’t at all feel like the worst possible outcome.
Even though I don’t think that marriage is necessarily escaping forward or should be about the wedding day, neither that the man I’m marrying should take care of me or make me a princess.
As others said before, marriage (or any kind of companionship that exceeds a few dates and fun weekend trips) is hard work, and the partner for that needs to be very carefully selected (or boldly, and then praying for the best, but that works out less than it’d be comfortable to admit). And I’m not even sure I want to work that hard for it. Without the pressing need for kids (which I somehow don’t have), it certainly loses some of its appeal.