Why a “passing remark” and a “harmless question” is offensive.

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Another day another f**king rude encounter. Can I swear on Medium? I don’t know, but there’s going to be quite a lot in this post because I’m annoyed. Exasperated, to be exact.

I have in the past, wrote bits and pieces of these in moments of anger and frustration but never really wrote a whole post on it because I worry that people are going to think I’m aggressive to my-already-assertive image. (Ha, ok I’m only half kidding.) But there’s always a tipping point.

So… this post was ignited by the (latest) curious question of “are you a virgin?” …

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Lynda.com (via NLB)

A lot of Singaporeans probably don’t know this, but NLB has set up an organisation/ government account for Singaporeans (and probably PRs, but don’t quote me on that) for free access to the site. You can sign in via this site.

If you can’t open the link, just go to lynda.com and sign in under “Sign in with your organization portal” and key in “nlb.gov.sg” and you’ll be brought to the “Login using myLibrary ID” page.

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That dreadful feeling of “I need to do this, but I don’t feel like it”.

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This was a pile of random notes I collated for myself so I could pick out a method to use when I feel unproductive (which has been a lot lately) and…it became an article. These might sound obvious but there might be some tidbits in there for you, who knows. If you’re procrastinating, might as well read on. 😁

Start Right — Pen to Paper

Pen to paper instead of thoughts to chaos.

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I tried planning the night before and also in the morning but the former didn’t work and the latter works on good days and doesn’t work on bad days. On my most unproductive days I like to write a master task list of everything I need to do in the week and then choose the tasks as the day goes by. …


Esther Teo

Human. Designer. Feels a lot. Thinks a lot. Writes sometime. https://esthertch.com

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