Estora Adams
Aug 23, 2017 · 2 min read

Yes. This. I certainly understand your hesitance to publish it, too. I think we need to sit at this table a long while — all with open hearts and minds. I grew up poor, have been dead ass broke as an adult, even. I know people who got chances I didn’t get because they had wealthy families. I also know people who got chances I didn’t get because they were minorities. I got chances some didn’t get because I was who I was. Today, my husband is shut out of jobs because he is middle-aged and white and libertarian though he is by far the best option much of the time. I still fight the occasional sexist battle at work, though certainly far less often than I once did. Yes, I know I have privilege. Everyone, in one situation or another has some. We need to sit down, and talk about that — about why we can’t be color blind and gender neutral. But we also have to sit down and talk about how LIFE ISN’T FAIR. It never will be. I will aaaaaalways struggle with my weight and not be the most athletic woman in the room. I’m never getting my blue belt in jiu jitsu in the average amount of time — not because I’m a girl but because I suck. I still enjoy it though, and one day I will earn my blue belt. That doesn’t mean that because I’m one of only two girls in class that there’s sexism.

That being said, I don’t want to worry about my black friends’ kids like I do or have to watch them get treated differently in businesses — or by their peers in their professions. That that is even a thing is so far beyond my comprehension — which I think is part of MY problem.

Thank you for starting this discussion.

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    Estora Adams

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    I am a poet, a novelist, a photographer, a painter. I am a wanderer, a rambler, a soul in a tempest. Follow the winding course of my words@ www.estoraadams.com.