Erin Tao

I also want to say it is incredibly hard for women to come forward and most won’t. It’s not because they don’t want the men to be exposed, it’s that you have to relive the pain and expose yourself on the internet. The internet is not a nice place when you are emotionally raw.

…g. There is a specific betrayal in a Black man’s betrayal. A specificity only Black women know.

Teach me how to make him beg, she said, and I wept. I wept because I have spent my life begging, overcompensating for myself, contorting myself into something more easily consumed, more palatable, something not me. And every man I’ve ever known has come confidently — assured in his right to whatever he wants, however he wants it. They beg for nothing, they take without saying please.

I was the difficult daughter in my family. Difficult meant I talked back. Difficult meant I cha…

…g. There is a specific betrayal in a Black man’s betrayal. A specificity only Black women know.

Teach me how to make him beg, she said, and I wept. I wept because I have spent my life begging, overcompensating for myself, contorting myself into something more easily consumed, more palatable, something not me. And every man I’ve ever known has come confidently — assured in his right to whatever he wants, however he wants it. They beg for nothing, they take without saying please.

I was the difficult daughter in my family. Difficult meant I talked back. Difficult meant I chal…