My divorce taught me that how I manage my expectations can make or break any relationship I’m in. It taught me to strengthen my standards, but to also count on the fact that surprises will come along the way. It’s how those surprises measure up to my standards that matters, not how they compare to my expectations.
In marriage, things get real. You have to learn to stick together to face the daily grind and still find something to laugh about at the end of the day, and until I can find someone who understands that, I’m more than happy to stay single.
Notice, nowhere in the above statement do I indicate that living is easy. Nor do I say that life must be hard. There are many events which are absolutely out of our control. Again, nothing new here, but how you handle what comes your way will be new to you. Experience is part of the process. Experience is the gel, the initial stage of thoughts manifesting into form. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t but it always is. To me, knowing that there is a forward brings great peace. It, of course, is a choice or more appropriately, I think, a series of choices we make. If we are aware of our own consciousness those choices are more productive in moving our energy in the direction of filling in the gap with great joy for us and for those around us! After all, who wants their life to be out of sync with the very essence of life?