“Love and infatuation “ every youth fantasy
According to Wikipedia love is a variety of different feelings, states and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection or to pleasure. It can also refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment to someone. Love is said to every youth dream to have someone they love and care for and who will also love and care for them. The youths sometimes mistake infatuation for love which often leads to heart break.
Infatuation according Wikipedia is the state of being carried away by an unreasoned passion for someone or something. Infatuation at times can lead to mature love but infatuations are short lived because it does not last long.
Practically the English expression “falling in love” is significant because no one rises in love or climbs in love. You fall in love because something of who you are has to go. If not the whole of you or at least a part of you should collapse. Only then is a love affair. You are willing to destroy a bit of yourself for the sake of the other. It essentially means someone else has become far more important than yourself.
It is customary to view every young people’s dating relationships as infatuation. Infatuation is said to be an early stage in a deepening sequence of attachment to someone.
Thus the first passionate adoration of a youth for the opposite sex whom he regards as far as above him to whom he hardly looks in the eyes is said to be a part of an infatuation or Crush.
Every youth would like to be loved be it infatuation or true love but what the youths don’t understand is that infatuation can be short lived. True love is when you love someone wholeheartedly and unconditionally.
The moment there is condition for love then it amounts to transaction. Maybe a convenient transaction or arrangement but that will not fulfill you that you have loved because if that condition vanishes then there is no love.
If you want to love, you have to love yourself first for you to be able to love someone because there is saying that goes thus “that you can’t give what you don’t have” . Nowadays the youths love because they want to love not because their hearts is yearning for it but because they see that their fellow guys or girls have their own female/male friends, this is called infatuation because the relationship won’t last long .
This where sex comes in because you are not truly in love, you will only see him or her as sex object and if he or she refuses that is the end of the relationship which ends up in heart break.
That is why the youths should be careful who they choose to date because it affects their emotional and physical life. As a youth I have witnessed a lot of heart breaks that is why am taking my time to tell the difference between love and infatuation. It is true that love makes people happier and at the same time makes people sad.
Our youth’s problem today is that they view love relationship as mutual benefit scheme. The youth’s believe that every relationship should be profit oriented especially the girls because they believe that it is a man responsibility to take care of his girlfriend’s need even if they don’t have. This mentality will always cause a rift between the individuals involved.
Love and infatuation always work together but it depend on what it leads to, be it happiness or heart break, but rather than be heartbroken, it is better to wait for the appropriate time to love, because as a youth you still have time to fall in love and break up but don’t let your heartbreak cause you your future.