And how to embrace it instead.

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Hey, you. Yeah, you.

I get it, another one of these commitment talks, right?

You’re probably thinking that I’m yet another person in your life who is about to sit you down and lecture you on relationships.

Nope. I won’t.

What I want to do is offer something constructive. A different perspective on the matter, if you will.

I’m not here to judge you, educate you, or anything of the sort. God knows if my wife wasn’t an angel I’d probably be standing where you are today.

I recently chatted with one of my best friends in the world. We…

How 9/11 changed my perspective.

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When the attack on the Pentagon and the attack on the World Trade Center happened, I was 11 years old, in 6th grade, and I remember I was transitioning between Social Studies and Math class.

When I got to my math class, the teacher had the TV on. This was odd, and this is when I first began to grasp the seriousness of what I’d heard was happening in the biggest city in America.

I remember looking up, and the first thing I saw was a plane rested against the Pentagon. Smoke was barreling from it.

Admittedly, I was an…

There’s no better time than now.

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Many people out there think it takes a certain personality, skill, or otherwise, to consistently write “content”.

But, this isn’t true.

There are plenty of people in my life that possess the talent to put together their thoughts in an organized way.

Whether you’re the essay type, the poetry type, or the novel type, it really doesn’t matter.

What matters is offering your positive thoughts and experiences to this world, in some way or another.

We’re all walking a different path. The way I see it, we all have something to offer.

And guess what?

The best way to understand…

And what you should do instead

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You ever hear people inadvertently put a lot of pressure on their future spouse/significant other?

It happens all the time. TV shows, movies, friends, family, whoever it is, we romance the very idea of “the one”.

I heard it in passing the other day. A younger girl was talking to her male friend and she said something like, “I’m keeping my standards high. I don’t want to be disappointed, so I shouldn’t settle for just any guy”.

I thought, “wow… is she ever in for a rude awakening.”

I wanted to interrupt their conversation and gently let her know that…

But isn’t that the point?

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Anyone that has grown up in America has probably been exposed to the difference between how relationships are portrayed, and how relationships realistically manifest.

Let’s face it, sometimes we like a predictable happy ending.

We like the contrast between the 9–5 real-life workday, and the romanticism of every little thing that happens in a love story viewed on the big screen.

It’s okay, really, with one exception.

We have to be very careful that the fairytale we watch on TV doesn’t become our real expectation.

Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t have expectations.

You should absolutely expect your significant other…

So, what?

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Real life is crazy, right?

It kind of sucks sometimes when you really think about it.

There isn’t always a happy ending, there doesn’t always exist a predictable path, one with lamps on the side of it, lighting every step we take.

No, that isn’t real life. Real life is unforgiving. There are no handouts.

Seldomly do people lend a hand, they’re simply trying to make it through another day in the life.

And sure, relationships are also apart of this real life.

And they’re messy, dysfunctional, co-dependent, among other things.

Rocky Balboa once said life is about the amount…

Let’s unravel some of these misconceptions.

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I wanted to take a few moments of your time today and talk about what’s been on my mind concerning relationships as of late.

There’s a theme in relationships, and I think this has to do with the current state of our society.

We live in a very individualistic society. We stress the importance of being the most you that you can be.

Throughout my high school and college years, I continued to hear a theme from very strong-willed individuals.

Mind you, there’s nothing wrong with being strong-willed. It’s good to be confident in who you are as a person…

Yeah, me too…

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I’ve been having this weird feeling that is bugging me lately. If I go a week or two without writing anything, I start feeling guilty about it these days.

This is something that hasn’t necessarily happened before. I always just wrote for me, or wrote because I was fired up about something. But I think the joy of it is that I write because I want to, and I like to.

I enjoy writing. One of the great things about it is that I can do it, on my terms, when I’m feeling inspired or motivated, or if I feel…

It’s science… I think.

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“Every worthwhile accomplishment, big or little, has its stages of drudgery and triumph: a beginning, a struggle, and a victory.”


Quoting the wise one, one more time.

I was seriously thinking about this the other day. The most stressful things we encounter on a daily basis have to do with life accomplishment, life work, or our deepest concerns and desires.

Why can’t life just be easy, though?

Why can’t I not get stressed out when I’m looking for a new place to live? Buying a house should be fun! …

And why it’s not just a tired saying

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Potential is a funny thing, and I think I have to really define it before I start going off about whether or not you’re living up to it. I want to define it in my own words, though.

Potential is basically possibility and opportunity wrapped into a firework. The wick is most certainly positive encouragement and coaxing — maybe even a little financial backing.

But there’s another thing about potential that people tend to skip over when they talk about it.

When someone says, “dude I just really think you have so much potential”, they really mean it. …

Eric Turner

Husband. Father. Friend. Social Worker. Life is messy. Come along for the ride!

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