in the first example, the woman who has been cheated on concludes, somehow, that it was her fault because she was too focused on the child(?) and the husband didn’t get(?) the attention somehow he deserved(?). whatever happened to “it’s the cheater’s fault for instead of talking about what he needs and doesn’t get, and instead of trying to make the relationship better he just went and had sex with another woman”? it seems to me that the burden of making things work is put mostly on the victim. not to mention the blame. I don’t buy it, and I don’t think a broken relationship can be mended this way. if cheating happens, everyone involved would be much, much better off with other people. hopefully some that would love and respect them enough not to cheat.