interesting. we have all kind of felt this way. before i got married, my wife would worry that i would leave her. 4 months after we got married, she asked for a divorce. she was sober , and i am not.
it took 7 years to get divorced. not fun. her fear of losing me was a self-fulfilling prophecy. her self esteem was at the core of her suffering. she is now free, happy, independent and sober, without me. she does not have to worry that i will leave her. She made sure i would leave her. I got arrested twice for trying to make it all come back together, and by being super angry.
We are good friends, and my mom has adopted her ( a long time ago) as her own. Her parents passed away in our third year of divorce. Anyway, keep on loving. We only go round once. xo ee