Perhaps you’re not reading into it enough. See what I did there, buddy?
In this tech climate, it is too often about gender, even subconsciously. My guess is, ‘bitch-sayer’ would have a lot more resect for a man leaving his position for a better job than a woman who left him for a better job. (Women are not here to serve you.)
Get a little notebook and jot down every time a woman in your business atmosphere is referred to sexually or aggressively, looked at salaciously with or without her knowing or excluded or ‘other-ed’.
Get back to us in 7 days with your notebook jottings. Will you? Work alone at home? Read more writings from women sloshing their way through the tech space… and believe them as opposed to thinking someone is being ‘too sensitive’ or should ‘look at it differently’. That’s your job. That’s on you and all men.