We need to understand this both as people who love and must show kindness, as well as people who are loved and deserve to be shown kindness. Love is not enough for a relationship. It is necessary to guide and motivate our kindness, but it isn’t sufficient.
…t we have felt as a result of what our partner has done even if there is real love in their hearts. We may still love them, but may not be able to live life with them for whatever reason. We need to be treated well, not just know someone loves us in their hearts.
Everyone deserves to be treated well. No exceptions. This means “but I love you!” doesn’t justify anything if a person can’t or won’t behave in a healthy way. If they can’t be kind, if they won’t show respect, then all the love in the world can’t sustain a relationship.