Did social media change socialization? In nature, it didn’t — in the voice of introverts

Have you ever felt awkward, shy or uncomfortable being exposed in a crowded place?

Well, introverts do.

We introverts very often feel that way, even though it may seem like nothing to others. In real life, there’re a bunch of situations that make us share the feelings. Things like being in a party, speaking publicly, or joining new groups all get on our nerves.

What about the Internet? It’s a life-saver! We (or I’d say I) applaud for its born. Years after, we struggle again. Not because the Internet is no longer working, but because it takes an enormous step advance. Sharing platforms are flooding and occupying much of our time. Be it Twitter, Vimeo, Medium. They’re overwhelming. They’re everywhere. They’re all-pervasive. And what do we all do on these platforms? We share our thoughts, feelings and interesting stuff to friends, family, and even strangers.

As an introvert, sharing is kind of scary. It takes nerve to share with people we aren’t close to. Sure the born of social media simplifies that. But new challenges come along. We need to bear the thought that there may be someone checking out our profiles and the things we shared. It’s fine. We’re not that weird.

What we really afraid is the ‘us’ we present.

Do I look decent? Are the stuff I posted appealing? Are they perfect? These questions always wander inside our head. We feel compelled to show the perfect ‘us’ to people even though we know nobody, nothing is perfect. We sometimes want to post crazy stuff just to entertain ourselves but we might actually never do it (or do it privately, which is what I did). Why? Because we care. We care how others look at us. We’re scared. Of the gossip pointing at us. Or, more importantly, we don’t want to share it because we wanted to avoid contact with people. Sometimes we need to stay in our little corner and recharge. Just like after going to a party, we’d stay at home for a day to feel better and alive.

Internet changes the way of socializing. What it didn’t change is the nature of it. We still share things around us. But instead of hanging out, we do it online. Without showing face, we feel much comfy. We feel like we could be ourselves. But once we hit the box, wanting to type something, we stop. Because we imagined the results. A bunch of people leaving comments under the thread. Yeah surely we’d love it, but we hate that it drives tons of strangers contacting us. That’s the conflict we face everytime we want to share stuff on social media.

What its name implies, social media is meant for socializing. Some people argued that it places an obstacle in close relationship, that it hinders our communication. But in its very nature, it’s for social purpose. And it has achieved the main goal.

What I just wrote didn’t apply to all introverts. Introvert and extrovert are just a classification of our social preferences. Some may be more active, some may be more reserved. But in general, majority of introverts would share the thought I just shared.


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