Congratulations! I’m married to the guy I met when I was 16 and I couldn’t be happier. And when I read a piece earlier this year about how most people should try polygamy first, because monogamy was harder and not natural, I said, “I don’t feel like this is a good way to judge human relationships.” Like, there are beginner and expert level settings? Why can’t we just accept that different people need different things to make them feel complete?
After I said this, a polygamist guy spent nearly a day trying to convince me that my husband was desperately unhappy and probably cheating on me. Then he equated my disinterest in polygamy with senators who opposed gay marriage rights.
Thank you for writing this. Love is hard. We shouldn’t try to wreck the ways other people find happiness.