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The best way to stay away from heartbreaks is, obviously, to completely shut yourself. To never trust anyone, and to never show any vulnerable spots. No doubt, if you do not let anyone into the most tender part of your heart, you will not get hurt.

The more people I meet, however, the more convinced I become that a little bit of vulnerability is precisely what we need to form valuable connections. Yes, being vulnerable means that you are exposed and that someone can badly hurt you. But being isolated, on the other hand, means that there’s not even a chance for a redemptive relationship to form, for a wounded heart to be healed.

It’s sad to see people around me becoming like islands, detached from others and engaging in only superficial interactions. They’re too proud and afraid to be vulnerable. I do understand them; I had my own share of violent heartbreaks, some of them pretty recently too. But I’m still convinced that what a bruised soul needs is to open itself up and reach out to others more, not less.