But Jon what good does it do it to us when we keep holding onto the hurts without letting go and…
Raphael Amponsah

True Raphael. But I think that as with everything else in life, even the good things. We should take a balanced position. Otherwise what may seem like positive advice can become poisonous for the recieving party. There are often layers of issues to overcome before some can move on. Due to the nature of the scars they carry. And many people are trying very hard to let go. So telling them they need to let go and move can become more invalidating than helpful.