Thoughts on: Jewel, Never Broken, Mental Health, Staying Happy & the Future of Music | #AskGaryVee 238

Gary Vaynerchuk and Jewel #AskGaryVee238

Disclaimer: if you don’t know who Gary Vaynerchuk here’s a brief description of the man:

Gary Vaynerchuk is a serial entrepreneur and the CEO and founder of VaynerMedia, a full-service digital agency servicing Fortune 500 clients across the company’s 4 locations. Gary is also a prolific public speaker, venture capitalist, 4-time New York Times Bestselling Author, and has been named to both Crain’s and Fortune’s 40 Under 40 lists.

Gary is the host of the #AskGaryVee Show, a business and marketing focused Q&A video show and podcast, as well as DailyVee, a docu-series highlighting what it’s like to be a CEO, investor, speaker, and public figure in today’s digital age.
In his Youtube page you can find every other platform he’s on, I personally recommend to follow his FB, Twitter and Instagram: www.youtube.com/user/GaryVaynerchuk/about

About Jewel: New York Times bestselling poet and multi-platinum singer-songwriter read more of her in the beautiful and comprehensive description on her website Never Broken

Why this episode ?

Link to the Youtube episode

I’ve been following Gary Vaynerchuk for almost two years now and i was revisiting the best and most significant (at least for me) contents starting with mental health and I’ve immediately stumbled upon this gem.

What about Mental Health ?

This is a topic I deeply care about, it’s something I would love to incorporate in my job to help and better understand others. This will be a little personal parenthesis on how I approach mental health (I would love to hear your perspectives), I think that firstly we need to:

  • Educate by learning what are the issues about mental health (anxiety, depression, anger etc.) understanding how they structure, born, develop and interact mentally and physically (what are the natural/biological reactions of our body) so that we can
  • Understand what’s bothering us and develop a more real/clear and personal view of ourselves (our true nature) on what we can build and
  • Improve by learning and consequently acting with new techniques and instruments to restructure our thoughts and behaviours that aligns with our new perspective of what we want to be and feel.

N.B: This is a very simplistic way on how to approach mental health but I hope it can help facing this truly wonderful (it is indeed wonderful) topic with a little more curiosity and appreciation.

Remember that if you have any tough issues or simply you want to have a more personalized approach I strongly recommend to seek help from a professionist (in my personal experience I’ve found the best to be Rational emotive behavior therapy).

What are the best advices to get from this episode ?

N.B: You’ll find many links that are useful if you want to have a more in-depth perspective and context on the content I write, all the links are either from GaryVee’s / Jewel’s official website, Youtube Channel, Soundcloud, Wikipedia and Amazon (link generated with Amazon SiteStripe), at the end you’ll find an app recommendation on how to meditate.

First and foremost these two amazing individuals have learned their way (know-how) through practical experiences, translating their ideas into actions (“ideas are shit, execution is the game”) and consistently executing day after day after day, ultimately building up from the ground what they’re about, exercising their nature (result of their great self-awareness) into reality, observing the results and adjusting by consequence.

  • Self awareness: if you haven’t I strongly suggest to see GaryVee’s video about it. This is what’s your about, what are your core beliefs and values, what are you good and bad at, it’s knowing and understanding who you are enabling a more (in my opinion) fulfilled and meaningful life.
You can listen on Soundcloud to the self awareness chapter of GaryVee’s Audiobook “AskGaryVee’s Book”.
  • Start doing now: don’t wait for the perfect time, state of mind, opportunity to strike, forget about executing perfectly and just execute, you’ll start to create more experiences, more interactions that will leads to more opportunities (good and bad) from which you’ll learn and adapt, bottom line is having more options (even one) is better than evening zeros.
  • Replace negative behaviours with positive ones: following the previous advice you’ll start creating a virtuous cycle of doing things in which you’ll see how you react, behave to different situations, try to see where you lack, what are the behaviours that make you lose and experiment changing them with something you believe it’s better, start with simple things then evolve.
If you want a broader perspective on this i suggest reading wiki page for RETB (Rational emotive behavior therapy).
  • “Happiness is a byproduct of certain behaviours” (Youtube link where Jewel talks about it)”: as Jewel’s said “you can set yourself for be happy”, “happiness is a learned skill” and I totally agree. You can start as she did searching how others people that you look up to are happy, how they did it, “What’s the algorithm ?”. This is the easiest thing to do, follow up the footprints of other people, you’ll find plenty of free content online. So it’s better not set as your ultimate goal happiness but focus and act on the things that are authentic to your nature (again the astounding importance of self awareness). By doing what you love, what you truly believe in you’ll find that it’s easier to act, to be practical, to do more, happiness will naturally come along.
Jewel wants to teach emotional and mindfulness skills so that everyone can achieve harmony (balance in ourselves) in life. You can find much more on her official website and in her new book “Never Broken”.

GaryVee’s adds that being happy is about perspective and being grateful which for me is a very practical thought because if you apply perspective to what you have, who you are, what’s your situation you can see things in a much objective and “spacious” way and this help incredibly to understand what you can be grateful for, even the small things.

  • Mindfulness: from Wiki: “is the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present moment, which can be developed through the practice of meditation and other training”. I personally agree with Jewel’s saying that we all need a break from our routine, especially when we get caught up in negative emotions and thoughts, through meditation you can educate your mind to be present in the moment, to be at peace with yourself along with many practical techniques like breathing, visualization, body scan etc.
If you’re interested in a funny and easy way of learning mindfulness and how to meditate I strongly suggest to download Headspace app (both IOS and Android) it has a beautiful interface, very intuitive and you can meditate as little as 10 minutes a day, the website has also a blog section where you can find countless of articles about every topic regarding mindfulness.
If you want to know more behind this app and the man who has created it watch this Ted Talk of the founder Andy Puddicombe where he explains the basics of mindfulness.

Hope you have found this article interesting, I’ve really enjoyed writing this one because it’s a topic very dear to me ! It will mean a lot to leave a comment and a few claps! See you in the next one !