Prince Charming
Everyone has heard of the tale, the prince who captures hearts. No one resists him, friend or foe. He makes everyone feel special. The charismatic persona and the captivating demeanor that draws everyone one in. Ever wonder how does that happen. Well, I may have some clue. So, let’s dive into this story of the magical world.
It’s called being interested. Well, the answer can’t be that simple, Right? One thing is for sure, most people love to talk. Whether it’s sports or hobbies, fashion or academics. Give them a chance and there’s a good chance they’ll talk your ears off. It’s in human nature to find connections. Connections with the metaphysical, with nature, with society. Why? Because of loneliness. Everyone feels this need to connect with something in order to ground themselves whether it’s reality or delusion. Connections are how humans have evolved. it’s how society evolved. It’s is a primal need. It’s hardwired into our collected subconscious. Look at children, how energetic they get when someone pays attention to them.
Connection is key, the more connected you feel to someone the more you feel safe with them, the more you are willing to share personal stuff, the more inclined you are to attribute certain feelings with them. Nothing builds connection faster then being interested in an individual. The more you are willing to listen, pronounced the effect of connection will be. With this in mind, I set out to charm people.
Conversation one led me to the conclusion that I might not be as smooth as I think myself to be. Conversation two was with my parents and as a result I was tasked with two more household chores since I behaved like such a caring and responsible son. Conversation three, however was far more productive than my entire day. Usually, there is a guard in the parking lot of the university where I study. So, naturally I decided that he would be my next target since I have to take a 10 minute walk from the lot to classes . The conversation began with "How’s your day going?". 10 minutes later and a supari packet later, we were conversing like long lost buddies. Applying the principle of "practice makes permanence" I repeated it a day later and Voila! The harsh journey through the perilous unknowns for the quest of knowledge was reduced to a comfortable ease.
In conclusion, using this technique with additional sweeteners perhaps is more effective. What I was trying to prove with this article was that being interested is what makes you interesting. Give people your attention and they will unfailingly notice you. Even if they don’t, you learn a great deal about people just by listening, What drives them? How they behave in situations? How they view life? Are they defined by emotions or reasoning? What is their trigger point? Their strengths and their weaknesses. Either way, you win.
