Dale Carnegie- the Interested Challenge

Dale Harbison Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. He has written many books but I have a chance to read one chapter of his book name as “Do This And you Will Be Welcome Anywhere,”
In this chapter, he explained that if you take interest in others they will take interest in you. Like he wrote about the Thurston a magician. More than 60 million people had paid admission to his show, and he had made almost $2 million in profit. He all had done with one thing that was he had the ability to put his personality across the footlights. Then Harbison wrote about the “Uncle George, the Fiddle Scraper from Kinzua County. By having a sustained interest in other people, he created a new life for himself at a time when most people consider their productive years over. The conclusion of this chapter is “If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people.”
There was a challenge in a course of Amal Academy that after reading this chapter I supposed to implement this in my real life. By contacting with my relatives, old and present friends which I do not like because I do not want to be more social because I am very conservative person. Well, I accept this challenge and I should. The challenge is that I should discover that how are you, how are you doing, what are your plans etc.

In the very next morning, I texted my old friends of my school. Some of them not din not reply but a very few replied. One of my best friends of my school he replied with a smiley and asked me that how did you remember me? Then I replied I was memorizing my old day school and I think about you and I text you. He said “ooh !! well what are you doing these days. And then chat started and go on for 2 hours. After chat, I realized that being social is not bad as I think. If you interested in people will take interest in you mean they feel that you are interesting.
Then in evening, I call my mom at home and start talking about her and she was surprised because before that I did not ask so much questions about her I just ask about her health, what is she doing and other things and then hang up phone. But today, I asked her a lot of questions like what has she done whole day, what she eat, I asked about papa, little sister and brother. After this she was very happy and start talking about me that what are your plans in future, why did not you come at this weekend before this she strictly said me that don’t come home before month stay in hostel and do study. And I also feel some different and I feel deeply happy.

So, the conclusion is that if you interested in someone he/she will take interest in you. The difference of interesting and interested is that
Interesting means holding the attention of someone. It tells how something makes you feel.
For example- This book is very interesting. You should read it. i.e. this book will make him feel interesting.
Interested means having or showing interest. It tells how you feel.
For example- I am very interested in going to museum.
It means you have an interest in visiting museum.
