The Interesting Challenge…… that Made me Interested in it!
Man being the social animal love to interact with people and it is actually one of his basic necessities along food shelter and clothing. Society is something that precedes the individual. Everyone has his own way of interacting in society that makes us different from each other. Uniqueness is the key factor that ultimately make us interesting and makes other person interested in us. “Dale Carnagie” was a great man, an American writer and lecturer passed away many years back but his books are still read and famous worldwide. I had a great chance of reading his book in a project assigned to me in Amal fellowship project “The Interested Challenge!”
I read the chapter Two, the main focus of this chapter is about showing love affection to people and listen them carefully. If you are a good listener then ultimately people become interested in you when the feel that you actually care about them. He writes in his book
He relates this concept with real life examples for the better understanding of the readers about his thoughts. According to Carnagie dog is the only animal who gets affection and love without doing anything and is the only animal that doesn’t have to work for a living. He wins the hearts of people with loyalty, showing interest and concern. In this busy life of hustle bustle, people hardly care about others, They only focus on themselves, their interests and their properties.“I” is the most used word during conversations as shown by the research by the New York Telephone Company. People are neither interested in you and nor they bother about the stories written by you if you are not interested in them.
It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greutest injury to others. It is from umong such individuals that all human failures spring. (Alfred Adler)
When you are interested in someone, then you show concern about him and try to solve his problems. Actually one prime purpose of the life is to help others as said by the famous poet
Howard Thurston was the famous magician but neither he had a good academic background nor he had extraordinary magic skills; the only thing that made him successful was the affection and respect which he used to show towards audience during his show. This habit of affection and care can help you during your career to make your boss realized that your are actually interested in their company. The writer discovered from personal experience that one can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.
After reading this really good piece of writing, my mind was full of thoughts and I decided to apply the concepts taken from the book in the real life. I do not speak much, this the complaint most of people do but I must say that I do not speak unnecessarily. But this book persuaded me to connect with my friends and family to get familiar with their recent focuses, interests and incidents in their life. I asked them “how are you, what are you working on these days, how is your family, what did you do this past weekend, any plans for next weekend, what are your goals for this year, how is the year going so far, what challenges are you facing these days, what are you planning to do after graduation”. I responded very shortly if they asked about me and continued to explore their interests and personalty. This was the first experience when I was actually listening them carefully due to the inspiration from the author and his views. It actually made me aware of their thoughts, fears, interests, future plans, priorities, goals and challenges.
Everyone is self obsessed and loves to talk about himself, his opportunities, ideas, interests and achievements. our conversations are filled with I, I, I, I and me. The most important factor is we don't listen to understand, we listen to reply. So there is the time to change ourselves and develop the habit of listening others with patience and warmth.
NEVER MISS A GOOD CHANCE TO SHUT UP…!